I recently read this blog about why dating Scandinavians/Nordic people doesn’t work. Bottom line was that while we don’t date nor in many cases marry, we somehow manage to find ourselves in real relationships. Here is how the Scandinavian non-dating culture clashes with the Western European one:
- Getting drunk and sleeping together before dating translates into sleeping with Europeans way too early for their own good. French guys, as well as probably most of the (Western?) European men love the chase. No, actually, they need the chase. Scandinavian women have no idea what the chase is as we have gotten used to the ease of getting drunk and going home with the crush. The inevitable end result will of course be that Scandinavians sleep way too early with Europeans and then are left to figure out why the guy disappears into thin air almost immediately after.
- Europeans seem to expect their women to be ladylike at all times. Scandinavian girls can be ladylike but when the going gets tough, the tough Nordic Valkyrie wont be afraid to put on their breastplates and get going! Independent! *roar* Strong! *roar* Self-confid….hey, where did the Belgian guy go?
- Scandinavian women do not understand being checked out. Scandinavian men don’t seem to have roaming eyes or if they do, they have learned to keep it hidden as it will probably lead to being beaten on the head and told “Eyes up here, creep!” European men have no such hangups. I have seen European men get so distracted over a cleavage that the conversation studders to a halt while their eyes linger. I’ve even seen the occasional lean-in like they are planning to use said cleavage for a cushion. Scandinavian women might get very uncomfortable under such serious scrutiny and have a hard time keeping control of the urge to bang some creepy Italian heads together.
- Letting the guy pay for dinner is hard for Scandinavian women. Really hard. Letting them pay for everything is even more so. So “being treated like a queen”, aka making the guy show some effort, makes us feel like we are being rude to the poor guy. Yeah, I know, Scandinavian women are weird, but we have got our own salaries, we have worked damn hard to get them and showing the guy that we expect equality in the relationship is really important. But expecting equality from European men makes them feel like “there are two captains in the boat.” (This is an actual line said to a Nordic friend). So off they go in search of a first mate instead of a co-captain.
So there is definitely a clash of cultures when it comes to the dating scene of Scandinavians vs Europeans. I sometimes get the feeling that Europeans are constantly in hunting mode, i.e. the men must hunt the women and women are supposed to be aloof and mysterious, always playing a game until they get caught. Scandinavians have only barely just changed their clubs for beer bottles and play the game of not interested-not interested-not interested-get drunknowIaminterestedpleasecomehomewithmeandthenwithmetothemovies. God, I miss them.